Self Talk with Rachel Astarte

Living the Foundation of Self—Reclaim Your Energy

Rachel Astarte, LMFT Season 3 Episode 4

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Feeling exhausted, but not from what you actually did? You might be leaking energy.

In this episode, we explore:

  • how we unconsciously give our energy away
  • why it leaves us anxious, foggy, and burned out
  • how to gently call it back
  • and how to avoid leaking energy in the first place

This is where awareness becomes power. Your energy doesn’t need to be chased, controlled, or protected. It just needs to be brought home.


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EPISODE TIMELINE

0:00 – What Is “Leaking Energy”?
A psychic/emotional drain caused by pouring attention into things you can’t control, often without noticing.

0:45 – Signs Your Energy Is Leaking
Hyper-focusing on others, overextending yourself, seeking validation, anxiety, irritation, and feeling scattered.

2:00 – Body Signals + Interoception
How tightness, shallow breathing, restlessness, and feeling “pulled outward” show that your energy isn’t centered in you.

3:30 – Step 1: Awareness
Noticing “Oh, my energy is leaking” is already the beginning of reclaiming it—no force, just seeing clearly.

4:30 – Step 2: Non-Judgment
Reframing leaks as learned safety patterns, not failures; dropping self-blame so shame doesn’t deepen the pattern.

6:00 – Step 3: Calling Your Energy Back
A gentle inner practice of visualizing your energy—threads or light—coming back from people, stories, or future scenarios.

7:30 – Example: Storm Anxiety + The News
How consuming fear-based news about a snowstorm led to unconscious anxiety and an energy drain, and how Rachel reclaimed it.

9:00 – Step 4: External Alignment + Boundaries
Making outer changes—like turning off the news, reprioritizing, or setting boundaries—to support your reclaimed energy.

10:30 – Projection, Relationships + Energy Leaks
How obsessing over a partner’s behavior can reveal unmet needs within yourself for listening, love, and support.

12:30 – The Three Pillars in Action + Invitation
Using non-judgment, awareness, and gentleness to stabilize your energy—and an invitation to notice leaks and welcome your energy home.

16:56 – Write Your Self Open Program Invitation
Information about the ongoing community, the new Monday cohort (April 13, 2026), and how to join for a deeper foundation of self-work.

Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte.

It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy.
Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary.

http://writeyourselfopen.com

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Music:
"Ave Marimba"
Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
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